Most Feared Thing in the World!

Public speaking is one of the thing most feared by many adults worldwide. Probably this is one of the reason why..... i ii i i i iii iii iiii



Donald Trump

Trump said "I am having a great time" ~ to be successful you must enjoy what you are doing!

And he is also an excellent communicator ~ a core skill of many successful men and women.


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Pursuit of Happiness

The pursuit of happiness is a matter of choice.

It is a positive attitude we consciously choose to express. It is not a gift that gets delivered to our doorstep each morning. And certainly that our circumstances are just a small part of what makes us joyful. If we wait for them to get just right, we will never find lasting joy.

The pursuit of happiness is an inward journey.

Our minds are like programs, awaiting the code that will determine behaviors; like bank vaults awaiting our deposits. If we regularly deposit positive, encouraging, and uplifting thoughts; if we continue to bite our lips just before we begin to grumble and complain; if we shoot down that seemingly harmless negative thought as it germinates.... we will find that there is much to rejoice about.

(source ~ exotic flamengo)

Speak to Me lah...

How many times you been in presentations where the speaker spent most his/her time speaking to the projection screen or to the white board? And usually what happened then? Maybe you lost interest or your mind drifted away?

A speaker/presenter must maintain eye contact with the audience. That is the most basic yet important "rule" which applies to one-to-one conversation, group presentation and public speaking.

Do not read the screen and do not show your back to the audience. Usually that happens when a speaker is very nervous, is over excited about his/her slides or when the person is not prepared. In future post, we'll discuss how to manage those issues.

When presenting, you can have a quick glance at the computer screen to check which slides being projected or to glimpse the points. You must be conscious about where you are looking at all time. After a while, it will become good habit.

Keep eye contact with the audience and converse with them :)

Do Not Sighhhhhh

Recently I watched an inventor being interviewed on TV.

Everytime before he answered the host's question, the inventor took a deep breath and then released a long sigh. After a while, it gave the impression as if he's answering questions which were beneath him. As if he thought the questions were dumb and wasting his time.

Maybe that was never his intention. Maybe he was just nervous. But he came across like a person who thinks too highly of himself and someone who looks down upon others who are not in his league..... because he kept sighing.

When speaking and discussing, be conscious of your breathing.

Do not sigh and do not be seen like you are sighing.

Stand to Deliver

If you are giving a presentation, it is best to stand and deliver your presentation.

Standing will allow you to make eye contacts with the audience. You can control your voice better. You can be more animated. And the audience will appreciate it because they do not have to stretch their neck in trying to see you.

Respect your audience and they will respect you.
Stand up to deliver your presentation.

Please Adjust Before Starting!

I attended one briefing which was presented by a lady senior manager. There were about 50 people in a packed room. Everyone were paying attention because the briefing was about government grant (money will always get fullest attention!).

In the middle of the presentation, the lady speaker slid her hand under her jacket and adjusted her bra strap.... whilst continuing her presentation. A few minutes later, she did the same thing.... but on the other strap! Aisehman???

Ladies and Gentlemen, make it a good habit..... complete all your adjustments BEFORE you enter the room to give presentation or speech.

Adjust your shirt, pants, belts, straps, shoe laces, stokings etc and get that out of the way. Also, put aside all your keys, mobile phones, PDAs etc so they do not distract you and your audience.

Do not distract your audience (unless you purposely doing that for a good reason!).

English?..... very easy!

Kepada adik2 dan anak2,

You know you are very weak in English. You know it will be very difficult to get a job without good command of English. You know you will cry if interview is in English.

Now you are very worried = = = Can you get a job after graduation? How are you going to help your family? Will you continue be a burden to your ageing parents?

No worries!!! Since you already accept the fact that you have a challenge, what you need to do is to take action and overcome the weakness. Start speaking in English.... make it fun. Go to classes. Learn from Internet and books. It is easy.... just practice, practice, practice.
Other than death, all other problem has solutions.
Work on solutions, not problems!!


Once you have the basic English skills, the following FumbleRules can help you write effectively:
1. Avoid run-on sentences as they are hard to read and they are often hard to follow the meaning of that the writer intended when he sat down and wrote what you are reading right now.

2. No sentence fragments.

3. It behooves us to avoid archaisms.

4. Tame the temptation to test the tolerance of alliteration.

5. Also avoid the allure of allowing abundant assonance.

6. There are no apostrophe’s in plural’s that aren’t possessive’s."

7. Don’t use no double negatives.

8. If I’ve told you once, I’ve told you a million times: resist hyperbole.

9. Avoid commas, that are not necessary.

10. Verbs has to agree with their subjects.

11. Avoid trendy, slang lingo that sounds flaky.

12. Writing carefully, dangling participles should not be used.

13. Kill all exclamation points!!!

14. Never use a gargantuan word when a diminutive one will be sufficient.

15. Proofread carefully too see of you mispelled any words or if you any words out.

16. Take the bird by the horns when it comes to not mixing metaphors.

17. Don’t verb nouns.

18. Never, ever use repetitive redundancies over and over again.

19. A preposition isn’t the best thing to end a sentence with.

20. But, if necessary, the previous rule is something with up you don’t have to put.

21. Do not be afraid to use contractions. They are perfectly acceptable, even for business communications.

22. Be careful of sentences which misuse relative pronouns, that are very clumsy.

23. It is un-necessary, even non-sense, to over-hyphenate words with pre-fixes.

24. But in reader focused, high end writing, hyphens are a top notch way to add message enhancing clarity to your writing.

25. Last but not least, avoid clich├ęs like the plague.
Fumblerule describes an error of style or grammar, while simultaneously providing an example of that error. Click here for more FumbleRules.

You Have Potential

Achieve your full potential....

First stop fooling around, then stop being a fool!

Once you are focused, you shall unleash your full potential


Decision Shapes Destiny...

Tony Robbins talks about how to unlock your true potential. A fast-paced, mind-expanding, motivating TEDTalk for high achievers and those who wish to be (Recorded February 2006 in Monterey, CA.)
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Keep A Career Journal

Everyone should keep a journal throughout their career.

Keep track of the:
  • tasks you completed,
  • projects involved,
  • clients served,
  • partners managed,
  • presentations made,
  • training attended,
  • lessons learned from mistakes,
  • value added from successes, and
  • ideas generated for the organisation
..... just to name a few of the things you should keep track.

The journal will come very handy in the future.
Start TODAY.

Scrap the Sarcasms

Interesting notes from a friend:
There is a Chinese saying which means "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech.

When people is too close with each other, we tend to take the relationship for granted, thus forgetting mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school."

On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker."

She answered, "You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you."

Frequently exchanging negative remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.